If there is one goal that all of us should have for 2014 – it’s to be happier. After our health, isn’t our happiness really the most important thing? Too many of us go through each day not completely involved, engaged and happy. We find ourselves overworked, over-scheduled, exhausted and craving bedtime! Yet, we only get one life and to live it to it’s fullest is what truly matters. And as a parent, we usually only get to have our children in our home for 18 short years, you want those years to be the happiest they can be.
If you are looking for ways to be happier this year and you are a busy person (like me!) read on for my 7 favorite ways to get more happiness out of the new year. Even if you can only focus on a couple of them, I guarantee it will have a huge impact on your life – happiness and all!
1. Live in the Moment
I seen couples eating dinner together in a beautiful restaurant, only to tap away on their phone and never even look up at each other. I have seen children and spouses being ignored while social media sites are updated or emails checked. I know that I have been guilty of being addicted to my phone – taking it with me everywhere, checking emails on the weekends, and posting Instagram photos instead of enjoying the actual moment. While the mister and I don’t bring our devices to the dinner table, it seems like media surrounds us everywhere. I would love to put my phone away even more than I currently am. Really, I would love if I didn’t even touch it after I pick Eben up from school and skip it all together on the weekends. I don’t want to look back and regret any moment that I wasn’t truly, fully present. I don’t want to miss a single conversation, smile or moment with my family – I want to live in the present.
2. Pick Your Perfect People
For many years I found myself surrounded by people who weren’t helping me live my happiest life. I would be with these people and be thinking in the back of my mind – is it time to go home yet? Even worse, there were people in my extended family that brought me down every time I would see or talk to them. I decided that in order to live my happiest life, it was time to only surround myself with people who lift me up and let the others go. I want to celebrate those fun experiences in life with people that I actually enjoy being with and who are happy to be with me too. Plus, did you know that you are who you surround yourself with? Meaning: If you surround yourself with successful and happy people, it makes it easier for you to become successful and happy too!
Remember: You can’t change other people, you can only change yourself, so make the number one perfect person that you spend your time with – you! Tweet This!
3. Let Things Go
By letting things go – I mean both physically and mentally. If your home is cluttered to the gills, unorganized and simply a mess, it will most likely affect your happiness. The same goes with your mental clutter – if you are constantly thinking of negative things that happened to you in the past or worrying about what is to come in the future, you are missing out on the beautiful life you already have right in front of you. Take some time each day, even 15 minutes and start to declutter your home and your mind. Give yourself permission to donate all of those items that you don’t love and to let go of all of the negative thoughts that aren’t serving you. You deserve it!
4. Make Yourself Your First Priority
As parents, we all do this – we put our families before ourselves. I am extremely guilty of this, I will find myself not exercising on the weekends because I feel guilty that I haven’t been able to spend 100% of my time focused on the mister and Eben. Or, I will skip going out to dinner with a close friend because I feel like I should really be doing something for my family. This year, I really want to make myself the first priority. I want to get up early exercise so I can guarantee that it gets done everyday, since it is something that makes me truly happy. And overall, I want to make myself a priority so that I will be healthy and happy, which is what my family needs the most.
5. Say No!
For many years I was a yes person – any time someone would ask me to do something, even if I didn’t have the time or didn’t want to do it, I would say yes. I learned over the years that it is definitely better to say no if I am unable or unwilling to do something. If you are constantly saying yes when you really aren’t going to be able to fill your end of the bargain – you let people down. If you find yourself repeatedly calling people at the last minute to cancel or reschedule because you really didn’t have time to begin with, it’s time to rethink saying no. Remember: It’s important to tell your children no too – you are their parent and one of the best things you can do for them is to set limits.
6. Date Night with a Twist
One thing that I definitely want to work on this year is date night with the mister and Eben, separately. Since the mister works long hours, I do find myself enthralled with him when he is home. I really can’t get enough of him and sometimes when we go out to dinner I will find myself engaging with him more than Eben. This also happens on the flip-side, if Eben has been busy and I haven’t seen him a ton, I will get sucked up in him and the mister is left all alone! In the past, I have found that going on date nights with them separately has really helped. Eben and I will go out to dinner alone and chat about the new book he is reading, his favorite video game or the latest gossip at school. It’s a fun way for me to be completely focused on him and helps us reconnect. This year, I really want to go out on a date night at least once a month separately with each of them – and then of course the rest of the time we will be together as a family.
7. It’s Called a Vacation for a Reason
How many of you have vacation time that you never use? I have heard time and time again that people don’t feel they have time and they will take that vacation next year. Forget it! It’s called vacation time for a reason – you need a vacation. How can you be the best you can be if you never get a break or never have anything to look forward too? For many years, (especially when I was starting my business) I would never take a vacation from work. I would literally take my laptop and phone with me on my family vacations and get up early to work each day, and then stay up late getting caught up on anything that I missed during the day. WHAT!? I would never feel like I had a break – I never got to sleep in, and was always worried in the back of my mind that work was waiting for me back at the hotel when we would go out. Last year, was the first time that I took an extended vacation from work (and left my laptop at home!) and I plan to do it every year from now on – maybe twice! It gives me the time to recharge, relax, refocus and I am excited to get back to work when I get home.
Remember: Your vacation should be as long as you can take one for – since it takes a few days for your mind and body to even begin to relax! Tweet This!
P.S. The above photo makes me smile – Eben was so tiny!
YOUR TURN: Which of these 7 ways are you going to try to focus more on in 2014? Please leave your comments below – they support us all!
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